It’s often been said that love is an unpredictable force, driving two people together for no apparent reason. While this is a beautiful sentiment, it’s rarely true. In fact, love is very predictable and comes down to a single factor. Familiarity . Both Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens and Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov feature young girls forced to face horrifying conditions in their childhood relationships. Yet when the time comes to choose their own loves, they stick to the same type of people they were tortured by in childhood. So why do we accept familiar love, even when it prevents us from reaching the life we truly want? One possible explanation is the comfort of the familiar. The truth is that the unknown is universally more terrifying than what is known. You can see it in every horror movie. As the protagonist approaches a closed door, the audience sucks in a breath - fearing what they may find behind it - but as soon as it's opened and the killer is revealed th...